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Guest Column
How to Keep Stress Under Control During These Trying Times
By Lisa Haisha
Read or listen to any news report these days and you're sure to get negative
information: workers being downsized, employees being forced to take pay
cuts, big companies seeking bailout money, and yet another business closing
its doors. With so much negativity dominating the nightly news reports, it's
no wonder so many people are so stressed at work.
Unfortunately, stress does much more than weigh heavy on people's minds. It
also contributes to lower productivity, increased sickness and a negative
mindset that keeps the spiral going out of control. And if any company is to
survive this economy and see it through to the other side, it needs
employees who can effectively deal with stress and keep it from affecting
their daily performance.
If you're one of the millions of Americans who feels overly stressed and
that your work life is out of control (and consequently hurting your
personal life), rest assured that you can regain control of your life and
minimize the stress you feel. The following strategies will help.
· Focus on your vision rather than your to-do list.
A vision is something that takes you on a journey and keeps you pumped up. A
to-do list is something that overwhelms you and causes friction in your
life. Think about it … how many times have you created a to-do list, only to
not complete your outlined tasks? Afterward, you probably felt like a
failure and beat yourself up for being so lazy, dumb, irresponsible… (you
fill in the blank).
The vision you create should be for yourself personally in terms of who you
want to be in the company or what you want to contribute. Once you're clear
on that, you can focus on the outcomes of your activities, and not on the
individual tasks themselves. In other words, your vision will keep you from
focusing on the drudgery of to-do tasks and give you a constant reminder of
what you ultimately want to achieve.
For example, if your vision is to win the company's top salesperson award,
you would focus on that image or ultimate pay-off rather than all the
minutia of things you must do to attain that award, such as all the cold
calls, prospect meetings, paperwork, etc. Without that clear vision in mind,
the daily grind will stress you out and cause you to lose focus.
So while you still have tasks to do and even to-do lists, you don't let the
small steps dominate your thinking. By focusing on your ultimate objective,
you'll stay motivated to take the action required to reach your goal.
·Create a weekly and monthly calendar.
While the idea of keeping a weekly and monthly calendar can at first seem
overwhelming, it's actually an ideal way to organize your time so you can
keep your priorities straight and lower your stress level. Here's how it
works: Before a new month starts, decide what your focus will be for the
coming month. Perhaps your focus will be to complete a big project at work
or to brand your company. This is your monthly vision.
Then, each Sunday evening write down what you want to accomplish that week
that will lead you to your monthly goal. Block time for those activities in
your weekly calendar. These activities are your priority. In the timeslots
with no activity scheduled, you can put all the other things you want to do
for the week, such as other work tasks, meetings, etc.
Finally, during your non-work hours, be sure to schedule things that bring
joy to your life, such as exercise, spending time with your family, reading,
relaxing with friends, etc. Now you've identified your main focus for the
month, have broken down your main tasks into workable time chunks, and have
allowed space for a personal life as well. Remember, personal time is vital,
especially when you're under stress. Even if you only have a few minutes for
yourself, that time will restore your energy and keep you motivated. So
don't neglect it.
·Say "no" to the things that weigh you down.
During tough economic times, many people are afraid to say "no" at work.
They believe that if they refuse to stay late, take on more work, or do a
special project then their boss will fire them. While you always have to
decide what's best for your personal situation, in most cases when you say
"no" to the things that don't feel right and that take away from your
wellbeing, you make yourself more effective in the areas or core strengths
that really matter.
For example, if you say "yes" to every special request your boss or
co-workers ask of you, eventually you'll be so overworked that you won't be
able to do anything well. All your work will be mediocre at best, which will
reflect negatively on your performance. However, if you say "no" in a way
that illustrates why saying "no" is the best option, then you'll have the
inner strength to do key tasks well … and that positively impacts the
company's bottom line.
So when your boss asks you to take on another project to your already full
plate, you could say, "I don't think that me taking this on would be in the
company's best interest. My plate is full, and if I stretch myself too thin,
all my work will suffer. Let's see who else may have the resources to take
this on."
This same concept also applies to the people in your personal life. When
you're stressed out, you need to be able to tell your loved ones and friends
"no." Realize people will always try to pull your time away from you with
requests such as "Can you baby sit my kids for the evening?" "Will you drive
me to the airport?" "Can I borrow $100?" If you say "yes" simply because you
don't want to hurt someone's feelings, you'll only end up adding to your
stress level. So say "yes" when you really want to help someone, but say
"no" when the request will put an extra burden on you.
You Can Take Control of the Stressors in Your Life
Stress is an inevitable part of daily life. And while no one will ever be
able to completely eliminate stress from their lives, you can take steps to
minimize the stress you feel so it doesn't negatively impact your
performance. So don't let the realities of the country's economy get you
down. Instead, use this time to get clear on what you want and to take the
steps to make that vision a reality. Before you know it, you'll love what
you do, your stress level will decrease, and you'll be a top performer who
gets the respect and recognition you deserve.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Lisa Haisha is a consultant and speaker who coaches entrepreneurs and
business owners to reach success in their careers. As co-founder of the Los
Angeles Chamber of Enlightened Enterprises, Lisa has helped hundreds of
professionals discover their unique strengths, overcome challenges and
accomplish their goals. Her powerful and insightful coaching techniques help
boost motivation, communication, productivity and creativity in the
workplace and in life. For more information, please visit:
www.lisahaisha.com. To hire Lisa for your next keynote, workshop or
consulting, e-mail: lisa@lisahaisha.com.
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